How to Get Out of A Situationship and Get Picked for Cuffin Season
It’s time to update this. I did this story a while back, but the more I see, the more I think you all need to see this again.
I see so many great men and women out in these streets unhappily single. There is a big difference in being single and enjoying life vs. longing to be in a committed relationship. A lot of people find themselves on this endless cycle of dating and getting stuck in situationship after situationship.
The problem with the situationship is that there are not clear cut guidelines. Both parties get to enjoy each other while in theory still living their best lives out in these streets. That’s all good until someone’s feeling get involved and eventually hurt. Situationship actually can work well, but all parties have to be open to creating some guidelines and boundaries. The beauty of it, is that there are way less societal constraints and expectations. This leaves the two (or more) of you to define what you are and are not on your own terms.
For those longing to make it past the situationship phase or to just get chose, here’s a few tiny pieces of advice.
Most People are visual, so create something worth looking at. Modern society has created the normalcy of having others peer into our lives constantly. The gift in that is that you get to control the visual being presented. Even on dating apps pay more attention to the visual being presented. If you are in chill mode, no one expects to be dressed and fully made up. Still don’t have crust in your eyes, don’t appear sloppy and unkempt. Remember, potential partners are not just paying attention to your face and body. They are looking at how clean your space is, what type of floors you have in your home, are those leather seats in that car pic butter soft? Some of that is an exaggeration but you get my point. Make sure you would be attracted to you before you present yourself to the world.
Not only should you make sure you would be attracted to you. Make sure you love yourself and know how to make you happy. I think one of the most idiotic things I hear from humans is that another human “makes them happy.” I’m over here like no beloved, that’s not how any of this works. It’s not even fair to place that outside of yourself onto another person. So if that person is going through one of life’s difficult moments, they not only have to figure out how to pull themselves back up; they also have to worry about making their partner happy. Otherwise they could quite possibly lose their relationship on top of whatever else they are going through. Make it make sense?
Growing up old folks what always say things like: start out how you can hold out. That is likely one of the most valuable pieces of relationship advice out here. I always say that a lot of successful men lead with their wallets. These same men then eventually find themselves wondering if women are capable of loving them for who they are instead of what they provide. Never realizing, that the thing you use for bate aides in your attraction. Basically you are going to attract more materialistic partners if you are a person who pays to play. Some women lead with their amazing bodies and grow tired of men who “only want one thing.” It’s the same scenario in bother instances.
Key takeaway here: You attract what you are, not what you want. If you want something different recognize that these people are just reflecting back something within you that needs your attention. Work on that something & watch what happens!